#240 Being single

We see you, we hear you.

We see those movie endings and we hear those greeting cards. We know the cheesy quotes and we sing those ballads at bars. We feel those preaching choirs and we read those magazine tips. We feel our parents pushing and we hear your chatty lips.

Yes, we know having a boyfriend is great and we know it’s beautiful and kind. But all we’re saying today, and all we’re trying to prove, is that you don’t need a killer girlfriend to have a killer mood.

Let’s chat about ten winning ways to celebrate your solo days:

1. Some like it hot. When you’re on your own you’re the master of the tank and the chances of a random flush scalding your skin is pretty slim. You’re less likely to run out of hot water so just twist that dial and soak into the zone.

2. One set of parents. Sure, you lose out on some inlaw naps but you could gain back holiday budgets, extra bedrooms, and Saturday evenings. Note to any inlaws reading this: This entry is about other inlaws, not you.

3. Take back the night. When you’re bumping around by yourself there’s no need to worry about making too much noise early or late. Tiptoes, quiet TV watching, and softly shutting doors take a backseat to cranking tunes, late-night phone calls, and your big galoomping feet.

4. Don’t be an ass. Single folks have no obligation to do joint Halloween costumes like Beauty and the Beast or the classic two-person donkey. Because don’t we all feel a little bit sorry for that couple dressed as Salt and Pepper shakers leaving the party at 10pm?

5. Flirt like you mean it. Chitchatting with sparkly objects of your desire is good fun. When you’re single ditch the guilt and holler at the busty waitress or chiseled cop. Not only is it exciting, but you’re growing your social skills and constantly meeting new people.

6. Getting to know you. You’re the only you you’ve got. Born and blasted into the world you’re a baby brain who flies through life forming crackly connections with everyone you meet. But getting to know yourself through experiences and deep thoughts adds important shapes and smears to your identity.

7. Bargain basement holidays. Tap your wallet and smile next time you walk by a towering Valentine’s Day display of heart-filled chocolates and pink teddy bears.

8. You can get with this or you can get with that. Are you hungry at 11pm? Get a burger! Are you bored on a Saturday night? Hit the scene! Do you want to free up your busy weekend or busy up your free one? Well the choice is yours! You can get with this or you can get with that. I think you’ll get with this for this is where it’s at.

9. Own your bed, own your life. When you’re single the entire bed is yours and you can test a variety of Starfish poses, Chun-Li leg kick positions, or even the extremely bold diagonal sleeping. (Rarely done.)

10. Embrace your disgusting habits. Clipping your toenails in bed, napping in piles of dirty clothes, or chomping greasy handfuls of potato chips over the sink is fine, fine, fine. The mirror won’t judge you and neither will anybody else.

People, let’s hear it today for being single. Exploring the world, finding adventures, and scoping big scenes are hallmarks of being cool with being you. Because look — falling in love is great and falling in love is nice but that doesn’t mean going alone can’t also be sugar and spice. Good days and bad days, setting suns and shining stars, it’s all about perspective and focusing on who you are. Because if all you need is love, and all love needs is you, then it’s great to relax and enjoy… just being you with you.


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118 thoughts on “#240 Being single

  1. even though i am happily engaged …
    i can appreciate the awesomeness of this post :)
    but i wouldnt swap my fiancee for the world!

  2. Of course there are ups and downs to being single as well as being in a relationship, but you did a great job of highlighting the awesomeness of singlehood! I hate the mindset that being single is a terrible thing. Number six is a huge one … I know lots of people who bounce from relationship to relationship with zero downtime in between. They literally have no clue HOW to be single, and I think it’s a shame. There are obviously great things about it … most importantly, diagonal sleeping in a king size bed! 😉

    When I’m attached, there are definitely certain things I miss about being single. Of course, they’re usually balanced by something great about being with someone, but still. They are missed.

    Oh, P.S. I love the app, too. My favorite part is waiting to see what it will tell me when I give it the thumbs up. Cool bananas. 😉

    1. Totally agree about number 6! I sometimes wonder how certain friends of mine will ever find someone that will work, as they know so very little about themselves!

      On a different note, an 1000awesomething app?!?I want I want! Is there an android market one too?

      1. This is one of my favorite Awesome Things ever! #6 is a great one too. For all of those who would rather stay in a bad relationship than figure out who you are and what you want out of life, this is a must read! I know too many people who stay with someone who makes them miserable rather than face themselves alone in the mirror. And then when you do meet that special someone…you know who you are and what you are looking for. Great post!

  3. This is so nice to read. Made my not-so-great day a lot brighter! # 9 is the best. I love sprawling out in the middle of my bed and not having to worry about hogging the covers! Awesome post Neil. :)

  4. I’m going through a difficult time right now, and this helped! Thanks for helping me see the positive side.

  5. Hey, thanks for posting THIS ONE today! I’m approaching another birthday this weekend, and I’m totally not where I thought I’d be at this point in my life: married with a litter of kids. I totally love my life I’m pretty dang good at being single; it’s just nice NOT to hear “WHY aren’t you married yet?” every once in a while. :)

    1. I can relate to you, it’s like you are letting people down because you haven’t gotten hitched yet. And for some strange reason being single is such an awful state of affairs.

  6. Gosh yes, being single is awesome! No one to call when you’re running late, no one to huff and puff when you go on an impromptu road trip to see your parents and the whole bed is yours. The bed thing, that’s really important. I’d almost like to say that it’s the most important thing.

  7. Awesome Post Neil! I especially love how perfectly you capture the feeling of things in your words.

    Yes! dating is very nice, but being single can be as well. It’s all about perspective. For instance, being single is Awesomely Awesome! when you’re still moving around a lot, no worries on the long distance fronts :)

  8. What about when you are a teenager and are single.
    You pretty much have no freedom, are judged by peers at school, and stil have to live with a family.
    Ever wonder why teenagers have a bad attitude?

    1. Believe me, it will end sooner than you know it and one day you’ll wonder how it was so easy to forget being a teenager.

    2. You are actually going to miss those days. Enjoy being a teenager and try to make the best of it. Working, paying bills, going into debt, having a mean boss, putting gas in your car, buying your own groceries and not having any money isn’t all its cracked up to be.

    3. Teenage days will pass. I can honestly say, that I was one of those teenagers always in some sort of relationship, always hating where I lived (with my parents), and (at least felt like) I was always judged. Things change.

  9. I love being single, especially after just getting out of a long relationship I wasn’t happy in. I did nothing the other day, all by myself, and it was AWESOME. I love being able to do what I want, when I want, and how I want. Plus, getting to know yourself, and how you change and grow in life is something more people should be doing.

  10. …and at least there’s no question about who peed on the toilet seat!

    I just returned from a shamanic ceremony for some #6.
    I see and could say so much, but I’ve made promises I’ll keep.
    I am moved to share this, with a heart-felt blessing:
    I think Beyonce’s video release should be stopped.
    Re-released altered, to show love, respect, affection; harmony and accord toward one another.

    All due respect, Neil, typo or Fraudian slip:
    “Falling IS love.” Love is for self and transpersonally, for one and all, “Fumbling towards ecstasy.”

  11. I’m still waiting for my special someone, like many people, so it’s nice to have a reminder about how truly AWESOME being single can be!

    P.S. Thank you for replying to my email, Neil! I wasn’t expecting a response, so when I got one, I experienced a rather frantic train of thought: “OMGhe’scontactingmeit’slikeI’vemetacelebrityOMGOMGOMG!”

    So thanks for making my day even more awesome!!

  12. After going through a long and hard break up, I’m just now starting to get my life back and really enjoy the time I’m spending studying in London. I can very much relate to this post…who doesn’t need a reminder of the perks of being alone every once in a while? Thanks. :)

  13. Even though I’m newly single, this helps me see the brighter side of things, when everything else seems so dark. I love this blog

  14. Even though I’ve been married 20 years to a wonderful man, there are still days, weeks and months when I look back longingly on my single days. Let me add a few more:

    #11: You can move to a different city, state or country if you want.
    #12: No rushing around on Christmas so no one’s feelings are hurt.
    #13: The piece of cake you were thinking about is still there when you open the fridge.
    #14: You only have to worry about your own laundry, dishes and errands.
    #15: You will never sleep better than you do now. (No snoring to shake the walls, no one hogging the covers and you can make the bedroom as cold or warm as you like.)
    #16: The remote is all yours.
    #17: You can spend your money however you want.
    #18: In laws
    #19: The excitement of first kisses.
    #20: Renting the movie that you want.
    #21: No one will judge you if you want to watch a Jersey Shore marathon.
    …I could go on but my husband and kids are asking me what’s for dinner.

    1. I especially like number 13! Oh, and 19 as well 😉
      Even though I would not give up my love for the world, of course!

      1. #13: The piece of cake you were thinking about is still there when you open the fridge.

        That says it all.

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